Getting Married with a Foreigner
(A contemplation from a friend)
It can be sometimes believed that “Love then Marriage”, I totally agree that Love is the most important thing in a happy marriage, however it is the fact that most of us need consider many other things beside truly love before getting married to someone. Marriage means that you decided to share your own life with your spouse and all people know how valuable of their life is, so it is very nature to consider everything carefully before making a decision . In case of getting married to a foreigner, it is more necessary to consider it from all sides.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of Getting married with a foreigner?
With my limited knowledge, i just can mention some most common points as follows: First of all, there are some advantages:
1. You are really happy with your truly love.
* If you are a person who has the sole aim of life is Love, you should ignore all the following of this article
* If you are not easily blinded just by Love, please keep reading.
2. You can learn effectively about more another culture, another language.
3. Your usual-life is always interesting because you always have to discover many exciting and strange things from your foreign partner.
4. Your children will have at least 2 bloodlines, know at least 2 languages and have at least 2 home countries.
5. You and your family can reside easily at least in 2 countries
Next to disadvantages:
I can assure that your life will become unusual, very much harder than other same-country-married-couples because there are too many obstacles such as language barrier, culture barrier, the barrier of race and religion….These obstacles can cause many many big problems, for example:
1. You might face the strict forbidden of you parents-in-law and also your own parents. If you are an Oriental, it will be harder to solve this problem.
2. You maybe never hear the lovely dear words in your mother tongue from your spouse. These words that you from deepest heart will crave for hearing whenever making love with your partner :)
3. You sometimes must pretend that you like what you really dislike to make your spouse feel happy, such as eating what you don’t want, reading what you don’t care and so on…
4. Nowadays, to break down these barriers is possible, but it is really hard to do. Therefore, if you don’t believe that you are brave and strong enough, you don’t want to face challenges or you want to have a peaceful life, please giving up the intention of marrying a foreigner, it will be really much easier for you to find out your other truly lover in your own country and live along with him/her happily.
In sum, for me, happy marriage is not based on who the husband and wife are but how congenial souls they have. I can not affirm that which decision is right or wrong but i am sure that if you find out the person who can understand you thoroughly he/she will always be there for you to overcome every hard obstacle in life, at that time nothing can make you wonder, please get married immediately then you will have a happy marriage, not to care either your spouse is a foreigner or not.
